Before I have my whinge in this post, I think there’s something I need to make clear upfront. I have had some posts published on Stay At Home Mum. More than that, I have an ebook published through them (which, I might add, I believe a lot more people should consider buying) – I think I’ve sold forty copies so far.
Furthermore, I know Jody, since we both live in the same town and occasionally move in similar circles. I also know Jody’s husband, Nicole and I’ve met Chris.
I don’t get paid by SAHM, except if people buy my book, and I’m not on their staff. I’m just an occasional contributor, and I haven’t even done that for ages.
I say this upfront because I don’t want to be accused of underhandedness and not revealing my connections.
With this in mind I’ll also say that, aside from liking the Facebook page and reading some of their posts, I don’t know anyone from The Organised Housewife. At least, as far as I know. I did used to live on the Gold Coast, so maybe. Who knows. Stranger things have happened. But here’s the thing, I’m sure they’re lovely.
Now that’s out of the way, let’s get to the points I want to make regarding the little shit fight between these two great pages.
For those of you who don’t know, SAHM is being attacked at the moment for purchasing domain names similar to other sites. Worse, they’re not giving them over to these other people with the original names when they ask very nicely, and in some cases have had the audacity to ask for money to give up a domain they own.
Initially, I wasn’t going to weigh into this, but the amount of cyber bullying around this is a disgrace. People seem to feel justified to write just about any horrible thing they can think of. This is the sort of spitefulness I associate with hormonal school kids.
I’ll say this, Jody is a good person. She’s a lovely person. In fact, it’s not only her husband who thinks she’s a bit of a catch.
In fact, this is the sort of person Jody is: She specifically told me to stay out of this bitch fight for fear of harming my own site.
But the personal attacks at my friend are really upsetting me, so I am going to repeat what I wrote to the people who were attempting to involve me and my site by sending me personal messages to garner support for ditching Stay At Home Mum.
Firstly, the cynic in me sees this whole thing as a move to get people riled up (mission accomplished) and increase interaction (I guarantee this is the case). Which is fine. Whatever works, right? After all, interaction on Facebook drives your posts into the feeds of your followers and effects advertising. I’m guessing this is good for business.
Meanwhile, there’s a lot of spiteful, horrible chat on Stay At Home Mum’s Facebook page about how unethical they’ve been. Really? I actually don’t see a big problem. They bought the names, they can do what they like with them, can’t they? They were for sale. To be used. The sites who didn’t buy them and left them on the shelf did so on purpose, knowing full well someone else could throw down anything from $2.00 to $85.50 (.xxx are expensive!) to snap them up.
In fact, if you want to go buy some Big Family Little Income domain names and set up similar sites, the following are available:
Here’s where you can buy them: http://www.crazydomains.com.au/domain-names/search/?domain=bigfamilylittleincome&tld=.com.au
I don’t know how much easier I can make it. Go crazy. Do what you want. Set up a porn site if you feel you must. I don’t care. You see, I have the .com I wanted and paid for and work through. If I wanted the others or felt it was important, I’d have bought them when I bought my domain.
I didn’t. They didn’t. You can. They did.
Secondly, as for the accusation of stealing traffic…really? I’d love to see those figures. I link over from Facebook myself so there’s no chance of going to the wrong site. Furthermore, the links from searches on the likes of Google for Big Family Little Income brings me in a whopping …well, let’s see. One today. None yesterday.
But that really adds up over a year. Umm…no.
And then from there people got into accusations SAHM steals ideas. Like recipes, you mean? So you’re assuming Jamie Oliver, Maggie Beer and Nigella Lawson all came up with the idea if you mix things like sugar and flour and butter you can bake a cake? Ridiculous. Even Heston Blumenthal works off the back of other recipes, albeit sometimes some really old and funky ones.
Nothing is new under the sun -except for the feelings I have towards craft beer, which have only materialized rather recently and totally changed my downtime.
Sadly, this whole thing between SAHM and TOH has blown up and has now gone from a dispute between websites to a personal attack on my friend.
And over what?
I tell you what, if someone would like to buy one of those domain names I mentioned above and put up a similarly looking site to mine so I can publicly call my more vocal followers to arms, that would be great 🙂
Like all bloggers and sites, I’m always looking for ways to increase my traffic.
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