A friend of mine, whose five kids have moved out, was fretting to me this evening about Christmas. She’s very worried the whole family won’t all see each other over the Christmas break because they’ll show up on different days.
Planning Christmas is hard once the little birdies start to leave home and especially when they start dating other birdies. If anyone’s parents have split it’s harder still – another set of parents who want to see their kids on Christmas.
We’ve solved this by giving up on a Christmas Day feast. We’ve been telling our oldest they can have every single Christmas with their partners’ families, so long as we have Boxing Day, or some other day around Christmas, where we’re all together – no excuses. We can’t be fairer than that, surely.
But still, it seems, this may not be as simple as I expect. Certainly my friend seems prepared to go to extraordinary lengths to entice her chicks back to the nest.
“We’re going to tell them their father has something important to tell them,” she told me. “They’ll think he’s sick or something and will come home quick toot.”
That’s a bit drastic, I thought. But then she explained her reasoning behind the importance of having all the kids home on the same day.
“Five Christmas dinners!” she moaned. “They’ll all want the double cooked roast duck, because it’s everyone’s favourite, and they take SIX HOURS TO COOK! And if we don’t do duck for everyone there’ll be hell.”
You know what? If I had to spend six hours a day, five days in a row cooking a feast over my Christmas break I’d feel sick too.
“And what are you going to tell them when they all show up expecting doom and gloom?” I asked.
“Oh, they’ll be gloomy,” she assured me. “I’ll tell them, after twenty years, it’s their turn to do the dishes.”
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I love that you’re another family who shares Christmas Day. My family has been doing Boxing Day as Christams Day for about 10 years and it works a treat. My husband and I still normally see my parents on Christmas day, but this year I’m expecting our first child and have been quite sick and as we will be 3 hours away at his sisters house, my Mum told me in no uncertains terms that I am not to rush home on Christmas night to see them, she would rather have me and my brothers and their families together on Boxing Day, than me in bed or worse ‘cos I’ve overdone it on Christmas Day. It makes the festive season so much more enjoyable, instead of one mad crazy day, we have two relaxing, enjoyable days, spent celebrating and feasting with family and friends.
Exactly right Jo B 🙂 And good luck with your pending delivery 😀 Hope you get to enjoy the festive season and aren’t too sickly
When i got married 15 years ago, i went from Christmas day with my family to boxing day. over the years as our families have gronw ( as we always had cousins etc there too) we now pick a weekend in Dec where we are all available and do it then. Otherwise we dont see each other till New year!
I hope when my kids grow up we can still enjoy the festivities together
When i got married 15 years ago, i went from Christmas day with my family to boxing day. over the years as our families have gronw ( as we always had cousins etc there too) we now pick a weekend in Dec where we are all available and do it then. Otherwise we dont see each other till New year!
I hope when my kids grow up we can still enjoy the festivities together
We are another family who don’t get Christmas day together.. My brother has managed to partner with someone whose mum’s birthday is on Christmas day, so they spend the day there. Our Christmas day works around what shifts my partner works (Boxing day last year, and this year it’ll be the 28th). I’m sure once the kids are older they will think they’re spoilt having 2 Christmases (after getting to open their ‘Santa’ presents on Christmas day!)
All I really care about is getting as many family together as I can 🙂 that’s the real joy of Christmas for us 🙂