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I Give My Daughter A Bit Of Cheek

Long trips in the car give dads like me ample opportunity to mess with our kids…

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I Think You’ll Agree – This Is Amazing!

This has been our best trip to Brisbane. Ever.

And I’ll tell you why…

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Susan - December 20, 2014 - 10:25 pm

Me thinks you should invest in a car navigator that will tell you where to go, no problems with traffic & it tell you which road to take, a cheap investment it saves time driving lost in a unfamiliar place.

The Lone Dickhead

I have something to say about the siege in Sydney, and it may not be what you’re expecting.

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Caz - December 16, 2014 - 10:13 pm

#illridewithyou indeed! I don’t take public transport, but this makes me want to start. I’m an American immigrant (have been here 14yrs now) and I can tell you the aftermath of this in the US would have been vastly different. It warms my heart to know I am raising my children in a country where the majority of people are caring and intelligent people that leap to support Muslims (who are just as horrified at what has happened!) as opposed to attacking them.

Nat Bowser - December 16, 2014 - 10:39 pm

Love this! Totally agree. The Love Wolf tag was wayyyyy too appealing. The lone dickhead suits beautifully. And yes, aren’t we Aussies just awesome!

Nat Bowser - December 16, 2014 - 11:01 pm

Arrrrrrrrrrgh – LONE wolf, not Love Wolf – god I hate when I typ lol.

Nat Bowser - December 16, 2014 - 11:01 pm

Arrrrrrrrrrgh – LONE wolf, not Love Wolf – god I hate when I typo lol.

KezUnprepared - December 16, 2014 - 11:05 pm

BRAVO, Bruce. I love this post. I really do. So well expressed.
I have not felt this much pride in Australia as I have today. A tragedy occurred, but these people (while it was fucking senseless and should never have happened) did not leave us in vain. Look at how we all came together.
When the Martin Place beheading plot was foiled, I saw so much vitriol everywhere online. I was disgusted and ashamed. And sad. To see how we have decided we’re better than that – amazing. Faith in humanity restored.
In saying all this my heart is broken for those who suffered in the heart of the siege and those who lost their loved ones. Lone Dickhead is an understatement. What scum. In any language or religion.

rory - December 16, 2014 - 11:19 pm

Absolutely Bruce. Couldn’t have said it better my friend!

michelen7 - December 17, 2014 - 3:59 am

Very well written. Thank you for expressing how many of us feel. I, also, had tears well up in Aussie pride over the compassion shown to others. Love “The Lone Dickhead” moniker. How apt!

Dianne - December 17, 2014 - 5:38 am

Love and strength to you and your fellow country-men from America. I am proud of your country and your police as you are. He was a dickhead and doesn’t deserve another moment of news time.

Anonymous - December 17, 2014 - 5:54 am

Here here!! So very well articulated and to the point, I couldn’t agree more or feel more strongly moved by this (as evidenced by my very first comment on any blog..ever!!) I too am proud of us. Good job Aussies! Take that dickheads!

Angela Page - December 17, 2014 - 6:01 am

Yup! Definitely on the same page here. I got so emotional last night trying to explain the #illridewithyou movement to my parents-in-law last night. I could barely get the words out. My husband even felt moved to comment on Facebook about the pride he felt for his adopted homeland for the way we have responded to the madness.

Although I’d have said “sympathise” … not quite “empathise” (as I’ve not lost a loved one in this manner) … but definitely not “emphasise”! Sorry, my inner grammar nerd couldn’t help itself!

Michele - December 17, 2014 - 6:30 am

As long as the media are going to behave like cheap ratings whores, there is very little chance of an unbiased view to be found. I choose to not name the criminal again. Too much attention has been paid to him. I choose to not refer to him as a terrorist because I do not think Australia has been terrorised. We have been pissed off, and let down, because the miserable piece of excrement, and his minion girlfriend, were let out on bail. If not for “that” flag, there would have been no easy association with terror, he would just have been a deranged man with a shotgun taking the patrons of a cafe hostage. Two good people died because of a criminal’s actions. Others were physically injured. How many more will suffer because this criminal has given the public a flimsy reason to demonise Muslims? And it will be mainly Muslim women targeted because modest women of faith are the most visible Muslims.
Thank god we are Australian and #Illridewithyou is showing all the good Muslim people out there that we do care .

Lee - December 17, 2014 - 7:20 am

This is about the most perfect summation of what happened in Sydney that I have read – thank you for taking the time to write and share it!

Jess - December 17, 2014 - 11:26 am

#illridewithyou Well said once again Bruce! I follow your blog closely and love reading what you have to say. If I ever meet you, I’m going to give you a big hug!!

Katrina - December 17, 2014 - 12:37 pm

Just to prove us wrong when we believe all your posts about how silly you can be, go and do something sensible. Maybe we don’t need to pity Tracey as much as we first thought ;-)

Nicely said Bruce and thanks for putting it out there for us all. Lone Dickhead it is forever now.

Bruce Devereaux - December 17, 2014 - 2:51 pm

I can assure you I’m every bit as daft as I make out :)

Maryborough Boy - December 17, 2014 - 4:07 pm

I’m glad the media hasn’t spiralled out of control on the religious front. If you take his religious views out of it, this bloke was a lone dickhead. He was in a situation he’d lost control of, and like any number of people around the world he lost it and took innocent lives with him. No reason to have a backlash against any religious group over it, you could compare him with Martin Bryant in many ways. He was also a lone dickhead, and Australia didn’t take revenge on anyone who shared his faith (if he had one).

Alex Herbertson - December 17, 2014 - 5:29 pm

This man was a deranged criminal – nothing more, nothing less.
The Australian Muslim Community in my opinion and experience would not support this type of criminal behavior. They would be as horrified as all Australians of all races and religions would be seeing this criminal bring up religion as an excuse to get publicity.
We allow freedom of speech in Australia, we allow freedom of religion also – keep the dangerous radicals out of Australia – they are poisonous and give the whole decent Muslim Community and the Australian Community in general a bad name.
I am yet to meet a Muslim who supports these criminals and I have also found most Muslims very tolerant of others.
My sincere condolences to the families affected and this includes the criminals family.

Sue - December 17, 2014 - 6:57 pm

I’m an Aussie living in the US. Proud of the way Aussies have chosen to use social media. I agree with you about the way the police dealt with the seige. They did an awesome job. As part of a minority group, I have on occasion felt targeted, intimidated and afraid by the behavior of dickheads. When I read a fb post about #illeudewithyou I cried. Made me feel very proud to be an Australian.

Anonymous - December 17, 2014 - 7:03 pm

I think the word you’re looking for is ‘empathise’

Terry - December 17, 2014 - 7:07 pm

It is really easy for people to be wise after an event!

Sarah Jane - December 17, 2014 - 7:16 pm

Hi, This is the most beautiful post you have ever written. It actually made me tear up.

Well said.

Sar – Proud Aussie

Bruce Devereaux - December 17, 2014 - 7:21 pm

You’re absolutely right. But in my defense I was half cut when I wrote it ;)

Jillian - December 17, 2014 - 9:37 pm

So succinct & so Aussie … the lone dickhead. My favourite quote of the year. You’d better trademark it before some lone wanka nabs it ;-)

Dee - December 17, 2014 - 10:34 pm

Temporarily living in the UK, I’ve watched the unfolding of the sad sad event, and struggled to make sense of it all – you’ve nailed it: thank you for articulating so well what I felt.

Jeff - December 17, 2014 - 11:20 pm

‘Lone Dickhead’ is just perfect. Great piece – except emphasise should’ve been empathise – though don’t let a little typo put you off posting great positive stuff like this :-)

Bruce Devereaux - December 17, 2014 - 11:28 pm

Okay, okay. I’ve fixed it. Like I alluded to earlier, my fingers were drinking when I typed this ;)

Denise - December 18, 2014 - 1:05 am

Totally agree with this post. I Love Australia and damn proud to be Australian. We cannot let them divide us we must all stand together united whether we be white, black, yellow, green or purple, whether we are Christians, Muslims or Atheists. We must stand together as Australians and not let them win.

Janet - December 18, 2014 - 6:44 am

Too right! Well said.

Anonymous - December 18, 2014 - 7:31 am

Yes and one of the big things that has made Australia such a great and safe place to live is the fact that we have exposed most of the atrocities that have come out of heavy religious dogma and the mistrust in the religious leaders that have throughout history have had nothing to do with being spiritual or loving to mankind ,their main aim is having power and manipulating others to follow their dogma and writings . We should not be fearfull of speaking out about what we see in the world as being an intense mind controlling culture of any kind , especially the ones that reject others for not following their dogma and beliefs

VirtualNonsense - December 18, 2014 - 7:43 am

Great blog post.

kelly - December 18, 2014 - 10:01 am

Well said Bruce. That’s what I think… he was a lone dickhead. The less attention paid to him the better. I loved the outpouring of flowers in the square its nice to see the nation cares

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Sarah Bourke - December 18, 2014 - 1:05 pm

This is very insightful and a perfect summation of the sitch. Love it. Thank you. (Go Australia!)

Sharon Lane - December 18, 2014 - 2:16 pm

Standing ovation with huge round of applause. Best thing I’ve read in ages. And yes, I’m bloody proud to be an Australian and think our cops are freaking awesome.

Renee - December 18, 2014 - 3:04 pm

‘Lone Dickhead’ love it and I am to thrilled to see the response from our community being so positive, as soon as I heard the news I was preparing myself for all the ‘Social Dickheads’ to come out and have their ranty 5 minutes of stupid.

Instead……. it was awesomeness to a horrid event & out pour of understanding.

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StevoR - December 18, 2014 - 5:34 pm

This. Is. Spot.On.


Bill - December 18, 2014 - 9:15 pm

The only dickhead here is the clown tht wrote this post. Anyone who think this guy was a lone wolf is a fool. He was the face of Islam as we know it.

Kez - December 18, 2014 - 9:44 pm

Thank you for sharing this. I am grateful for your words and hope the world heard them.

Vicki - December 18, 2014 - 9:55 pm

Love being awesome. Let’s aim for more awesomeness & less dickheads in the world.

KI - December 18, 2014 - 10:29 pm

Police are awesome and I agree. But whoever was in charge (I’ll call him/her Mr X) of the special unit should be fired on the spot and here is why:
1. The very first thing SFU (special force unit) does, is to establish “eyes” inside of the zone. To know exactly what is going on inside. If it hasn’t been done, whoever Mr X, should have been fired right then. Because if they did have the insight view,
a. they would have known exactly how many terrorists are there
b. He doesn’t have a “dead man” switch and if he has no dead man switch, you can shoot him at the first available chance
c. He had no bomb on him

2. The second opportunity Mr X had was when the very first hostages managed to escape. And all Mr X needed to know is if the terrorist had a dead man switch.
3. When SFU started storming the shop, it looked like they were not prepared for it. No detonation on the slide doors for the quick entry. You can see on the Chanel 7 broadcast how two SFU’s were trying to press a slide door button to get it opened and it wouldn’t (because all the doors were disabled, that they got it right)
4. This guys did represent Islam and you can’t call him a long wolf. He had 68,000+ loyal followers. It is potentially 68,000 long wolfs (or in some countries it would probably be called an army).What if two or four (like in Pakistan school shooting) followers get together and do the same? Would you call them long wolfs?
5. I personally thing #illridewithyou is great initiative, but the core problem here is that it wouldn’t have happened if so called good muslim majority spoke up against so called horrible minority. But they don’t do that. They don’t speak up, because that majority has the same ideology of Koran, which is a “brutality” book. When the new unti-terror law was introduced, no one a part from Islamic leaders had problems with it, which pretty much confirms that they have something to hide. I have nothing to hide at all… knock yourself out and check my emails, phone calls and bank accounts. You wouldn’t like it if you have something to hide.

It’s time to get real and smell the reality. Islam is deadly for ANYONE who is not s believer.

kelley - December 18, 2014 - 11:25 pm

Beautifully said… thank you for articulating what was in my head xxx

IrishVet - December 19, 2014 - 12:58 am

never been to Australia but it’s on my bucket list. Nice job taking care of dickhead and I agree with the views not giving him anymore of his 20 seconds of fame.

Rasti - December 19, 2014 - 5:58 am

Completely agree with you. As a Muslim, I am touched by the support and understanding that Australians have shown. I can only pray that people of other nations look towards you and learn to be as tolerant.
Thank you.

Tas - December 19, 2014 - 6:28 am

Really liked your post, however Lone Arsehole would be a more apt description.

Magic - December 19, 2014 - 9:53 am

You are pathetic.

Bruce Devereaux - December 19, 2014 - 11:12 am

‘The face of Islam’? The Lone Dickhead? Oh, Billy, you’re funny. Sad too. Misinformed. Bigoted? Yeah, I reckon. And if you think I’m being harsh and judgemental remember that you’re the one who came on here and labelled me a dickhead and a clown and a fool for saying we shouldn’t hate so many for the actions of so few.

Bruce Devereaux - December 19, 2014 - 11:18 am

Ah, but unless your surname is Johnson at least I stand behind my comments enough to use my real name, Magic. And for which bit? Thinking the police and their support were awesome for throwing themselves in front of those bullets to try save lives? For calling this guy a name (I’m guessing you aren’t upset because you think he’s a hero of some sort)? Or for being proud of the attitude of so many Australians for laying the blame where it should be – on the person who committed the crime – instead of on anyone who happens to share the love of a certain book? Thanks for stopping by and engaging in the discussion, Mr Johnson.

Tina Gleeson - December 19, 2014 - 11:51 am

100% agree with everything you wrote!! The Australian “people”, and particularly the people of Sydney, have shown what they are made of. If only the media would “get with the programme”!!

Pete - December 19, 2014 - 11:55 am

1. The police are awesome. I agree.
2. He did represent Islam.
3. Don’t gloss over the difference between ideologies. Let people feel the tension. All of us need to see the flaws in our beliefs if they’re going to be addressed.

barb - December 19, 2014 - 1:03 pm

Liked (loved) shared and now I comment….. Your Awesome!!!

nathan mucklow - December 19, 2014 - 1:48 pm

I am fully supportive of having people feel safe and ace the right to be who they want to be if they are not putting unwanted situations where others are not interested in there ideas.
I have a massive problem with showing any support towards any religion at all but mainly Islam. Religion is a following without any common sense and disgusting things happen, have happened and will happen because of it.
Islam or Muslims the religion I mean is anything but peaceful . It is the most racist, sexist, cruel, child sex abusing and hypocritical of them all.
Before I go further I totally agree there are lovely Muslim people, thousands of them. The religion is brutal and to the nice Muslims I need to ask what is it you read because from the very beginning Muhummod the Prophet spread Islam by the sword, murdering entire villages of non believers keeping only the Virgin girls as sex slaves and encouraged this as right. It is Alahs way. Muhommud himself took a 6 year old bride when he was 52. This here alone should be enough to throw the religion to hell right then and there .
Alahs rules are to murder anyone who commits aphostrephy and preaches peace that can come only when the world is controlled by Islam and Shria law and says Jehad ( holy war is the way to do it) everyone else must die including me who believes nothing. Especially ghosts in theme parks in the sky who hears every word yet does nothing EVER.
Any peaceful piece is a small passage to suit who’s reading it.
I’m happy to stick up for s lady who wants to wear what she likes but do not force this ridiculous , rubbish joke of a belief RELIGION ON ANYONE. It’s bullshit and for people scared of death and it being final.

Anonymous - December 19, 2014 - 3:27 pm

To all the Lone Dickheads out there, you can not break us, we are Australian and we stand together.

Roy - December 19, 2014 - 5:06 pm

Thank you to those involved. A job well done! :-)

Anonymous - December 19, 2014 - 5:06 pm

What has disapponted me are ‘commentators’ like Paul Murray, some boofhead hack he has as a sidekick, Miranda Devile and other bloggers who have been blaming Islam, insulting ‘bleeding heart lefties’ and saying Muslims have hijacked our sympathies with i’llridewith you. They are still looking to divide and once the funerals are over, these hate mongers will start pointing ill informed fingers. And the dickhead(s) will win.

Steve - December 19, 2014 - 6:55 pm

Beautifully said!

Anonymous - December 19, 2014 - 9:07 pm

Aweful lot of lone dickheads out there.
I will not ride with them

cheryl pierce - December 20, 2014 - 1:31 am

Onya, Aussies! Wish I could say the same of USA.

Arthur Dent - December 20, 2014 - 8:27 am

Yes he was a lone dickhead. But I fear we will be seeing a lot more lone dickheads in the future as Islamic extremist groups call for more lone dickheads to do the same.

He definitely does nit represent the views of 99,9% of Muslims who are friendly and peace loving. But he represents the views of the very small number of radical fundamentalist Muslims like those Islamic State. Unfortunately their website is actively trying to recruit more lone dickheads, apealing to people who through various circumstances have nothing to lose by doing these things.

Again this has nothing to do with 99.9% of Muslims who are genuinely nice people.

And the same thing could have been done by a crazy radical fundamentalist Christian. Just pointing out that there are a very small number of Muslims world wide encouraging other lone dickheads.

The price if freedom is eternal vigilance.

Joshua Rasnier - December 20, 2014 - 9:50 am

Agree 100%. I think our reaction and response showed to the world what being Australian is about.

Anonymous - December 20, 2014 - 1:04 pm

I had heard that as the law currently is the police were not allowed to take him out with a sniper. They’re hoping to change that law now. Otherwise that’s what might have happened before the civilians were hurt. Our country’s law is fairly ‘human rights’ driven I think, and it allows for people such as this one to have some freedom, if only temporarily. I think bail granted to potential psychopaths isnt careful enough and i also think government payouts to criminals is ridiculous. If you need to make drugs or rob people for money instead of getting a real job you should be in Gaol with no money, not granted bail and then ironically given a settlement from centrelink!

Anonymous - December 20, 2014 - 1:08 pm

Well, they sure backed him! Lol

Anonymous - December 20, 2014 - 1:08 pm

Love this post and totally agree. Australia is as awesome place made so by tolerant awesome people.

Ozzypip - December 20, 2014 - 1:33 pm

Like you I am proud to be an Australian. Proud of the way our police and for a large part the media handled things. We can all be wise after the event and say how things should have could have been done. I am proud of our Muslim brothers and sisters who have largely condemned the actions of this lunatic. Proud that instead of letting this being an opportunity to ferment hate and violence, have turned their backs on it and stood by. I am proud that we are devastated by the deaths of 2 innocent people. Can you imagine the pain that the Pakistani nation are going through right now after the murder of 130 children. I hope that we are left a little more sensitive, a little more aware of what people in other countries go through on an almost daily basis. Thankyou for your eloquent words (drunk fingers talk well sometimes)

Vicky Sanderson - December 20, 2014 - 4:38 pm

Very sad day for Australia but no matter whether the Muslim community have disowned him they all still believe they are superior and want to control Western nations. The Muslim women who fare retaliation have continued with the ‘divide’ between themselves and how they see the rest of Australia, again blaming us,that’s their mentality. I for one will not be riding with them until they change their attitudes.

Loqutas - December 20, 2014 - 6:12 pm

Now I know why Australia has so many busy physiotherapists, the population spends too much time ‘patting itself on the back’ for behaving in a normal civilised manner.

Bruce Devereaux - December 20, 2014 - 8:59 pm

I think you misunderstand the purpose of these sorts of discussions. Unless we stand up and express ourselves like this the haters, who are extremely vocal, are the only voice. This is important :) thanks for stopping by.

Anonymous - December 20, 2014 - 9:20 pm

Yes I agree totally almost.Only we don’t know onhesty and truly who that lone dickhead had as friends out there..He acted alone and took two good people’s lives with that.I gess he only knows the truth.Which isn’t important now only I hope this makes our country stronger and makes any type of person who thinks along the lines of terrorism of any sought a fool for trying to break our spirits.

Jo - December 20, 2014 - 10:51 pm

I knew I LOVED your blog for a reason Brucey but OMG you wrote my feelings on this matter perfectly.
And whats more I am feeling that it has encouraged a sharing of the Christmas spirit across more devides too, well its how it has appeared to me at my check out at work. More Muslims and Budists and even Hindi coming through with Christmas goods and so much love being expressed. I have worked in retail for 18 years all told and done alot of Christmas shifts but this week I have been huggedby more customers than ever before and seen them hugging and sharing the love everywhere.

Wil Grear - December 21, 2014 - 3:00 am

No he wasn’t. Stop your poisonous racism!! Dickhead!

Todd Brittain - December 21, 2014 - 11:20 am

A lunatic hijacks an inner-city coffee shop, holds innocent people hostage at gunpoint, brings the CBD to a standstill, causes the deaths of two beautiful people and then some people decide he should simply be called the “lone dickhead” in lieu of the media’s “lone wolf” description, because that might somehow lessen the horror of the whole thing…

Look…this bloke WAS NOT just your garden variety dickhead, and for people to call him that is actually an insult to all the dinky-di Aussie dickheads out there who’ve earned the right to be referred to as a dickhead in the true sense of the word (as used in the Aussie vernacular)

This guy did was in a completely different orbit to that in which your typical ‘dickhead’ operates.

A ‘dickhead’ is someone who drinks and drives; A dickhead is that obnoxious person who publicly abuses a waitress in a restaurant for being a bit slow with the meal; A dickhead is the bloke next-door who holds loud, drunken parties for his mates until the wee small hours – stereo cranked to 11 – not giving a rat’s arse about his neighbours. Heck in some cases, the term ‘dickhead’ is not even used as a mild perjorative, but rather as a veiled term of endearment, much like the term ‘Bastard’.

No – calling this idiot the “lone dickhead” misses the mark by a considerable margin. He was a violent sociopathic who had a long history of violence. I’ve known a lot of dickheads in my time and have been called one, but in describing this guy, the term “lone dickhead” doesn’t even close.

Noemi Reynoldss - December 21, 2014 - 2:55 pm

I have been calling this guy ‘The Sydney Thug’ but ‘The Lone Dickhead’ is way better. As is everything you said. Thank you for putting it into words. I am so grateful to be an Aussie. :-D

seadaddy - December 21, 2014 - 5:42 pm

Job done. Man killed. 2 people killed by man. Whatever the result, however the result was achieved, it is NOT a time for patriotic masturbating of egos. There ARE lunatics out there, of all religions, colour and shades. Not a time for self congratulation or jubilation, merely a time for reflection and prevention without rhetoric .

Neil - December 21, 2014 - 10:17 pm

The guy had 14,000 odd likes on his Facebook page!

Zahra - December 22, 2014 - 11:02 am

Love love love this post Bruce!! Knowing that despite all the negetive publicity Australians are far from giving into this frenzy is soooooooooooooooooooooooooooo heartwarming and although I believed it before too I have no doubt Australia is the best place to be !! And Australians are truly an awesome nation unlike other! There to support each other as humans and nothing else! I’m a humanitarian Montessori teacher graphic fashion product designer soft hearted Muslim woman and #illridewithyou is the best thing that happened to me ❤️ Needless to say we know our dickheads from the rest! They have no place in Australia!

Chris Higgins - December 22, 2014 - 12:59 pm

Sorry, but you seem to have lost yourselves in some Fantasy Island version of your own reality. I was called by The Airline Pilots Association to identify parts of the Boeing 757 that was hijacked and crashed 12 miles from our house in Pennsylvania. I was in Dallas at the time and it took three days to drive home as more of these “lone dickheads” terrorized the free world. You are completely naive if you don’t believe that there are PLENTY more of these zealots living among you, waiting to commit crimes against a nation that has very little capability to defend itself from such attacks.

Bruce Devereaux - December 22, 2014 - 4:35 pm

I think some people have missed the point and I don’t know whether it’s deliberately or they honestly don’t see what they’re saying – the Muslim community isn’t responsible for this dickhead’s actions. He did it. The same way the entire Christian community wasn’t responsible when Scott Roeder killed Dr George Tiller in May 2009. Don’t blame and hate on a whole demographic because of one dickhead (or even a few). That is wrong and only leads to more hatred.

The Trials Of Raising A Fair Dinkum Aussie

Think you’ve got it tough raising your kids? Spare a thought for a friend of ours who, thanks to her tradie husband, is raising a right little ocker.

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Emma - December 17, 2014 - 10:05 am


Ten Things I’d Rather Do Christmas Day Than Cook

The best part of Christmas isn’t the ham or even the presents. The best part is family so don’t spend your day attempting a Nigella #ColesMoreChristmas

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Taylor - December 20, 2014 - 4:49 pm

Loved the picture captions!

Great post :)!