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My Response To Australian Marriage Forum’s Latest Ad

“What are you watching?” Master9 asked me tonight. “Just an ad about gay marriage,” I told him. “Good,” he said. “People should be able to marry whoever they love.” Unfortunately, it wasn’t an ad for that….

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Anonymous - March 31, 2015 - 9:27 pm

Sometimes I wonder if we would be better off if our nation was run by 10 year olds!

Bruce Devereaux - March 31, 2015 - 9:42 pm

This next generation will get it done. But I have high hopes they won’t have to.

Heidi - March 31, 2015 - 10:01 pm

I’m glad you watched the whole of that ridiculous video of old mate, because I couldn’t get past the first minute. That makes no sense to me whatsoever. I have seen many many many heterosexual couples who should have never been allowed to have children, but no one stopped them. Why is that all of a sudden the Australian Marriage Forum’s argument anyway? What a stupid organisation. Thank you for raising your children the way you have.

Bron Slorach - March 31, 2015 - 10:03 pm

Out of the mouths of babes….P.S. you need to change your MP. Remind him of that when next you write to him.

Bruce Devereaux - March 31, 2015 - 10:04 pm

I write him about every six months to ask if he’s changed his mind yet. He must hate it when he gets my emails :D

Bruce Devereaux - March 31, 2015 - 10:06 pm

Smoke and mirrors for discrimination.

Michael Knowles - March 31, 2015 - 10:20 pm

Bruce, you’re an incredible ally, and you’re raising a wonderful family. Glad I know you mate. Thanks for sticking-up for families like ours. See you soon!

Bruce Devereaux - March 31, 2015 - 10:32 pm

Looking forward to catching up around a game of Rummy-O, Michael :) You guys are doing a fantastic job raising those boys. They’re a credit to you :D

Bindi - April 1, 2015 - 12:01 am

So, his argument is all about not having a mother. Should I assume that he’s okay with lesbian couples having children?

CSmith - April 1, 2015 - 12:21 am

All children should have good, strong, male and female role models in their lives and children of gay parents are no less likely to have that. Where I live in the southern U.S. close family is a big deal, it is common for generations to live together and kids are often very close to aunts, uncles, and friends of the family. It is not unusual to refer to a long-time neighbor as Grammy or an aunt or uncle to be known as a second mom or dad. As long as kids have lots of people who love them, AND two parents who try to raise them well, they’re going to turn out just fine.

Marisa - April 1, 2015 - 2:55 am

Love this. Here in the US there is so much hate still, but we’re working for a positive change. My little man knows that love is love and he gets very upset if someone tries to tell him any differently. He is being raised by me (his bio-mom) and his Justin-daddy (step-father). His Dad lives near us with his dad’s long-term girlfriend. He has 4 sets of grandparents who dote on him and more than a dozen biological and non-biological aunts and uncles who spoil him, many of whom are in “non-traditional” relationships. Trust me, he has no issue recognizing love when he sees it, or knowing what a healthy relationship is. I have so much hope for the future generation, both here in the US, and from the looks of it, Bruce, your flock will do a fair job of Australia!

Jodie - April 1, 2015 - 6:39 am

My son had very similar views at 10 and it made my heart swell with pride. He’s 15 now, and still feels the same way, as do his younger sister and brother. If the next generation running this country can have more open and accepting views, then we’ve done this parenting thing right!

Barbara Good - April 1, 2015 - 8:15 am

This is just anti gay marriage, this is anti gay MEN marrying. Pure, shameful discrimination. And there argument doesn’t had water at all. Not unless they’re also campaigning for the removal of all children in the care of fathers or any other non traditional family setup. Plus last time I looked marriage wasn’t a prerequisite to starting a family nor is starting a family mandatory after marriage. I’m raising my kids, five and three, with the belief that any two consenting adults who love each other can marry. I’m hoping that the law catches up before I have to explain the whole legally recognised marriage vs publicly declaring love and commitment but not having it legally recognised.

Anonymous - April 1, 2015 - 8:51 am

All the commentary and the rah rah towards gays still does not make it right. Using the argument that you can take in foster children and raise them as your own, and the likes, is NOT the same as being gay. We SHOULD be able to help out different family and non-family members. We should not be gay. Sorry to put it so harshly, but there is no other way to say it. God intended for a marriage to be between a man and a woman only.

Bruce Devereaux - April 1, 2015 - 11:16 am

Dear Anonymous, if indeed that is your real name, you are wrong and I’ll tell you why. Firstly, whichever God you look up to that is entirely your business. But your God and your holy text (I assume it’s the Bible but it could be the Book of Mormon, Qur’an or Torah or what have you) does not have a place in our laws. We are secular. And that’s important. It provides you with the freedom to study from whatever book you like and to live your life by those values. It does not give you the right to bigotry and discrimination. If it does then one would wonder why you would even consider joining that particular religion. Consider a few countries around the world where their laws are based on religious teachings and you might give yourself a bit of a jolt because they are not tolerant and safe societies to have your own points of view and to live with what modern societies are calling equal rights. We do not want that here. Being gay isn’t a bad thing. People are born with it. It’s not even restricted to humans – there are lots of animals who display gay tendencies. So if you want to claim the god of your religion forbids it then you might want to ask yourself why it’s there in the first place. Thanks for stopping by. I do hope I’ve given you something to think about.

Anonymous - April 1, 2015 - 2:01 pm

Mr. Devereaux, I know that people may not want to think about God because they want to live a life of freedom. However, we and all creation are made of God and he made it very wisely. He also fashioned a man and a women in his infinite wisdom, exactly for the creation of man. NO other union can do that. It’s that simple. I implore you to think of that. Of course you are free to believe as you will; but when the end of the earth does come, everyone will be judged on what they didn’t do or didn’t believe. I had to tell you that because I came upon this post and I would otherwise have been guilty of not telling you.

Bruce Devereaux - April 1, 2015 - 2:30 pm

Dear Anonymous. I have no issue with God. I have a huge issue with people using religion to promote their bigotry. I had to tell you that because otherwise I would have been guilty of not telling you ;)

Marc Morrow - April 1, 2015 - 8:13 pm

“As a Christian I have no duty to allow myself to be cheated, but I have the duty to be a fighter for truth and justice.”

– Adolf Hitler

Anonymous - April 1, 2015 - 8:23 pm

Keep fighting the good fight. It’s how dictionaries get changed.

Bruce Devereaux - April 1, 2015 - 8:32 pm

So easy to hide your bigotry behind the words of a religious text.

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Mel G - March 31, 2015 - 6:20 pm

Sorry for your loss Bruce, and I know exactly what you mean by the funeral family get-together!

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bec - March 29, 2015 - 5:35 pm

I just had my daughters 6th birthday party, I can completely understand, my husband wasn’t even here and he was still on my case about being able to pull it off! it went fine, kids had fun, food was eaten and I was ready to down a bottle of wine that night :)

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Halie Hornby - March 26, 2015 - 10:25 pm

I like them so much I bake my own, and it’s the only baking I ever do – apricot & white choc is my favourite flavour.
Might have to try apple & cinnamon next batch!

GFgirl - March 27, 2015 - 6:27 am

I thought your son was gluten free? I’m coeliac and I think one of those buns would land me in hospital let alone more lol!

Nomie - March 27, 2015 - 10:56 am

I am not wanting to start a religious debate but they’re for EASTER because of the CROSS Bruce… You know us Christians believe that Jesus died on the CROSS (and then rose again which is the happy ending)… So if you take the CROSS out of the name quite a lot of people might get a bit CROSS! ;-)

CSmith - March 27, 2015 - 3:05 pm

We don’t eat hot cross buns in the U.S., but reading about all of these yummy choices has made me consider a new tradition. I love apple anything, but I could also go for some with chocolate.

Bruce Devereaux - March 28, 2015 - 2:39 am

My sister was diagnosed coeliac. We took gluten out of Master9’s diet for a long time, but the symptoms persisted. Not ruling it out but we have him on a ginger product to settle his stomach and we’re actually thinking it is related to nerves and anxiety. Still working it all out.

Bruce Devereaux - March 28, 2015 - 2:42 am

I would never want to start a religious debate, especially as JC has provided us with some awesome public holidays over the years ;) But my stomach wants what my stomach wants

Jenna - March 31, 2015 - 8:27 am

But if you take the cross out they’d be hot buns and that sounds like all kinds of wrong!

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Karla Oleinikoff - March 26, 2015 - 9:15 am

Little dude really rocks that dress, and they all look fabulous! Glad you all had a great time, and Google rocks!

KezUnprepared - March 26, 2015 - 12:55 pm

Haha no classier word than soiree!
The kids look fabulous! I’d be surprised if a dude with that many sisters didn’t at some point wear a dress and know about fashion!

Bailey - March 26, 2015 - 9:16 pm

All the kids looked wonderful!! Especially your lad in his gown (my boy thinks he’s awesome!). And I think miss 7 has a grand future ahead of her on the stage!!